How To Choose Best Parenting Style For Your Child?

Different parenting styles may work differently for different children. What matters most is finding an approach that aligns with your values, fosters a healthy parent-child relationship, and promotes the well-being and development of your child.

Harleen Kaur
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Parenting Styles

Parenting Styles

We are all navigating the vast sea of parenthood together, encountering similar challenges in choosing the best parenting style for our children. It's important to note that there is no one-size-fits-all "best" parenting style that is universally applicable to every child and every family. Different parenting styles may work better for different individuals based on their unique circumstances, cultural backgrounds, and parenting philosophies. What matters most is finding an approach that aligns with your values, fosters a healthy parent-child relationship, and promotes the well-being and development of your child.

Traditional Parenting Styles To Choose From:-

Parenting styles have been broken out into four main classifications: authoritative, neglectful, permissive, and authoritarian. 

Authoritative Parenting:  Authoritative parents provide guidance and support while also allowing their children to develop independence and make age-appropriate decisions. Like authoritarian parents, they set limits and enforce standards. But they’re much more nurturing as compared to authoritarian parents.

Some characteristics include:

  • Balances warmth and emotional support with firm boundaries.
  • Sets clear expectations and rules.
  • Encourages independence and decision-making within those boundaries.
  • A healthy and open line of communication.

This is often identified as the most effective way of parenting for most children because it allows for a healthy environment and strong relationships for both parent and child. Research tells us that authoritative parenting is ranked highly in a number of ways: Academic, social-emotional, and behavioral

Authoritarian Parenting: Authoritarian parenting includes strict rules, high expectations, and a focus on obedience. Parents who adopt this style often have high levels of control and discipline but may be less nurturing or responsive to their child's emotional needs. While it can lead to obedience in children, it may also result in reduced self-esteem and autonomy.

Some characteristics include:

  • Places a strong emphasis on obedience and discipline.
  • Uses strict rules and high expectations.
  • Enforces punishments and consequences for non-compliance.
  • Less emphasis on emotional connection and communication.

 Children under the authoritarian parenting style can be prone to low self-esteem, being fearful, associating obedience with love, and often misbehaving outside of parental care.

Permissive Parenting: Permissive parenting involves high levels of warmth and acceptance but lacks clear boundaries and discipline. Parents who practice permissive parenting are often indulgent and avoid setting limits or enforcing rules. While children may feel loved and supported, they may struggle with self-control and have difficulty with boundaries in other areas of life.

Some characteristics include:

  • Offers a high degree of warmth and emotional support.
  • Seek to be a child’s best friend
  • Has few rules or boundaries for behavior.
  • Often avoids disciplining or setting limits.
  • Allows children to have a high level of freedom and autonomy

Children under the Permissive parenting style, often develop a lack of motivation, insecurity due to the absence of boundaries, issues with authority, and poor social skills.

Uninvolved/Neglectful Parenting: Uninvolved parenting is characterized by low levels of responsiveness and involvement in the child's life. Parents who are uninvolved may be neglectful or indifferent to their child's needs and may not provide adequate support or guidance. This style is associated with negative outcomes for children, including behavioral issues and difficulties in social and emotional development.

Some characteristics include:

  • Lacks emotional involvement and attention to the child's needs
  • Provides minimal supervision or guidance
  • Fails to meet the child's basic physical and emotional needs
  • Often resulting in a lack of attachment and support.

Neglectful parenting is harmful to the child and can make it hard for the child to develop relationships.


Modern Parenting Styles for New Age Parents and Their New Age Children

In our current day and age, four modern parenting styles have also been added to the more traditional styles. These include free-range, helicopter, paranoid, and positive parenting.

Attachment Parenting: Attachment parenting emphasizes building a strong emotional bond between parent and child. It involves practices such as babywearing, breastfeeding, co-sleeping, and responsive caregiving. The focus is on meeting the child's needs promptly and creating a secure and trusting attachment relationship.

Attachment parenting has proven to be associated with many positive outcomes such as better emotion regulation​ and cognitive development. Babies who are securely attached cry less, cooperate more, enjoy their mother's company more, and have fewer behavioral problems

Helicopter Parenting: Helicopter parenting refers to an overprotective and highly involved parenting style. Helicopter parents tend to closely monitor their child's activities, make decisions on their behalf, and intervene excessively in their lives. While they may have good intentions, this style can hinder the child's independence and problem-solving skills.

Helicopter parenting is a coined term for “overparenting”.  This means the parent is involved in a child’s life in a way that is over-controlling, over-protecting, and over-perfecting leading to low confidence and low self-esteem, underdeveloped coping skills, and increased anxiety in children

Free-Range Parenting: Free-range parenting encourages children to have increased independence and freedom to explore their surroundings. Parents who practice this style give their children more autonomy and trust their judgment to navigate their environment safely. However, they also provide support and guidance as needed.

Free-range parenting supporters say that it encourages problem-solving skills, promotes creativity, strengthens personality formation, and builds confidence in children making them more resourceful.

Positive Parenting: Positive parenting focuses on promoting positive behaviors and strengthening the parent-child relationship through encouragement, praise, and rewards. It involves setting clear expectations, using effective communication techniques, and avoiding punitive measures. Positive parenting emphasizes teaching appropriate behavior rather than punishment.

This parenting style has a great deal of research supporting it and has shown success in raising children that can better address and work through their feelings and emotions, especially in difficult moments. 

Gentle Parenting: Gentle parenting emphasizes empathy, respect, and understanding in the parent-child relationship. It focuses on nurturing a strong emotional bond, providing unconditional love, and using positive discipline techniques. This parenting style is composed of four main elements—empathy, respect, understanding, and boundaries—and focuses on fostering the qualities you want in your child by being compassionate and enforcing consistent boundaries.

The most effective parenting style is one that considers the unique needs of the child, promotes their well-being, and nurtures a positive and loving parent-child relationship. It's important to remember that these styles are not mutually exclusive, and many parents may adopt elements from multiple styles based on their own beliefs and values.


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